In the 21st century, there are many communication channels and the world has become a smaller place. However, this does not mean that relationships have become easier. Divorce rates are skyrocketing; people don’t maintain relationships with their near family. Extended family members are almost like strangers to each other. Maintaining relationships is hard work in today’s time. There are many reasons why relationships are breaking everywhere in the world. Couples are breaking up all the time, and two or even three divorces are commonplace today. The other end of the spectrum is that because of recurring breakups people are finding it extremely hard to maintain relationships and shy away from commitment and marriages. The following are some of the main causes of breakups in relationships:
Main Causes of Breakups in Relationships
Cheating
A committed relationship or a marriage is usually based on a vow to each other to be faithful in a relationship. This vow is being broken by both men and women at a higher percentage in the 21st century. Infidelity is both emotional infidelity as well as sexual infidelity. When a third person enters a marriage, many times there is a sense of betrayal and trust is lost forever. This causes breakups in many relationships. Because of our work lives and our social lives, it is very easy to cheat these days.
Long Distance
In the past usually, people had more local lives. Many times couples grew up, got married and stayed in the same locality without staying away from each other for long periods of time. Today, because of work, education and other commitments, long- distance relationships are on the rise. Couples these days can spend months apart in different cities, sometimes even in different parts of the world. This time spent apart causes a strain in relationships and results in breakups.
Communication
Couples these days many times find it difficult to communicate their feelings about day to day events with each other. The openness that was existing in a relationship in the past is missing in relationships today. This is because of self-preservation and a lack of trust in couples. Communicating problems with each other help solve problems. There is a lack of trust in relationships and many times individual go through problems within a relationship without telling their partners. This creates misunderstanding, lack of trust and even anger and fights within couples that can cause breakups.
Expectations
In the past, people got married early on the basis of attraction, compatibility and socio-economic backgrounds. Nowadays, individuals entering a relationship already have a social group, a career and also set expectations about their life. They want their life to go in a certain way and they have priorities which need to be met in their lives. They also have an opinion about the priorities and qualities that they are looking for in their partners. Romantic relationships don’t match these expectations, in the long run, are doomed to fail.
Compatibility Issues
Romantic relationships are initially based on attraction, having fun with each other and the whirlwind of romance. However, compatibility means being able to spend years together without fighting or having tensions in the relationships. Compatibility, friendship and the matching of personality with each other develop over time. If this does not take place over time, relationships tend to breakup.
Bad Behavior and Abuse
Bad behavior includes having bad habits like smoking, excessive drinking and excessive partying. Drug abuse and physical abuse towards the partner are also reasons why relationships fail over time. Keeping secrets also has major implications in a relationship that can result in a breakup. Narcissism and no respect towards each other can also result in tensions within a relationship that can cause breakups.
Financial Issues
Financial incompatibility can cause couples to argue and have different opinions on money matters. Also, if the couple goes through hard times financially, this situation causes a strain on most relationships. Many times couples are known to breakup with each other during hard financial times. On the flip side rich individuals also leave their partners for greener pastures after they get bored of them in a few years.
Ego and Jealously
Ego can destroy most relationships. Many times ego can hamper couples from being supportive of each other and ambitious people cannot even be happy for their partner’s success. Many times irrational jealousy and possessiveness can be very dangerous for the success of a relationship. Ego and jealousy have caused many breakups in the past and will do so again in the future.
As mentioned above there are many causes for relationships to breakup in today’s world. With the slightest hint of a problem, couples are in a hurry to break up and move on without actually working on solving the problem and staying in a relationship. Relationships are hard work and it requires almost a daily effort to stay in a relationship from both sides. However, relationships, in the long run, are worth every effort in today’s times.
Lack of Commitment
A strong and lasting marriage requires dedication from both partners. However, if one partner doesn’t invest wholeheartedly in the bond, it can jeopardize the union. It’s not uncommon for the more devoted partner to think they can shoulder the entire burden to keep the relationship afloat. They might reason that their extra effort can compensate for their partner’s lack of involvement. But unfortunately, commitment doesn’t work on a mathematical basis; 200% from one person and 0% from the other doesn’t average out to a balanced 100%.
When such relationships come to an end, the initial shock and heartbreak can give way to intense feelings of resentment, especially if one partner feels they were taken advantage of. This can lead to a particularly challenging divorce process.
Bad habits
Lifestyle choices such as smoking, drinking, and drug use can significantly influence relationships. Many individuals prefer partners who avoid such habits for a healthier and more harmonious relationship.
When you stop caring for each other
A relationship begins to wane when mutual care diminishes. Those endearing gestures and heartfelt moments are what nourish a bond. But once they’re absent, it can pave the way for separation.
When you can’t fix each other’s mood
When you’re unable to uplift each other’s spirits, it’s concerning. If you can’t bring a smile to each other’s faces during tough times, it might be worth reevaluating the relationship.
When they always hurt you
Despite your efforts to salvage the relationship, it seems they might not feel the same. Their repeated actions cause pain, leading to the eventual separation.
You become fed up
When you realize things aren’t progressing and you’re exhausted from repeating the same actions, yet they’ve grown tired of you.
When you don’t put any efforts into the relationship
A balanced effort is essential for a thriving relationship. When one ceases to invest in the bond, it begins to weaken.
When your relationship starts affecting with arguments
Prolonged disagreements and conflicts can strain relationships. Even after resolving the immediate issue, lingering feelings can create distance between partners. Over time, these emotional gaps can lead to a relationship’s breakdown.
Trust is broken, the feeling is hurt
When trust is breached in a relationship, it can lead to deep emotional pain. Compromised trust can be detrimental to the foundation of a partnership.
You become selfish and think only about yourself
When you prioritize only yourself and neglect the thoughts and feelings of the other person, you deviate from the true essence of love.
You refuse to compromise
If you’re unwilling to find middle ground, disagreements may persist indefinitely. When there’s love, why not embrace some positive changes within yourself?
You keep secrets
Keeping secrets from one another can be as burdensome as telling falsehoods. Concealing the truth often carries the same weight as deceit.
Family Restrictions
In India, numerous relationship terminations occur due to cultural constraints and societal norms related to caste, religion, and other established standards.
Money
Money can strain even the strongest of relationships. When one individual continuously spends without consideration, it can become a major point of contention.
